My name is Kemi and I am 30 years old. I was born in Togo but I grew up in Nigeria. I am Togolese, really, and not Nigerian, even though I grew up there and I speak Yoruba and other Togolese languages. I’ve been in Canada for about 8 years. I came with my younger brother to Canada as an international student to study Business at the University of Winnipeg and we live in the west end of the city.
BEING SOCIAL ONLINE AND ONLINE DATING
When it comes to online, I mainly post positive messages because there is so much nagging and people are always complaining about the weather. I try my best to be a positive woman for the world. I don't post any negative messages out there for the world or make any comment on posts that are offensive either. I go on peoples' pictures and “like" them. I want to maintain a positive image. Once in awhile I post pictures for family. On Twitter, I mostly re-tweet or favorites tweets.
When it comes to online dating, I’m really concerned about meeting someone online and I don't think I can meet anyone online and date them offline or sign up for any dating websites. Mostly, because you can’t just take someone’s word at face value. I have added people who are not directly friends to me but are friends of a friend and that’s pretty much the extent to me meeting people online. I would not go on twitter and add a male I find attractive or think the guy would text me if I add him. But then again I have been in a relationship for 3 years so I don't see the appeal.
RISKS OF USING SOCIAL MEDIA
Sometimes people get carried away with popular trends especially on social media and it can cause more damages than good. But it is also different when you are older. For the younger generation, especially young Africans who may have moved to Winnipeg in recent years, they are more likely to be exposed to the internet. They may decide to go on their social media such as Facebook or Snapchat to post nudes to seek attention, or send nudes to their boyfriends or girlfriends. These youths may also meet someone online and something may transpire between them. I personally know someone who meets people online for the fun of it. A young female friend of mine meets men online just for the fun of it and will meet men out of town who like her tweets on Twitter or pictures. They will decide to spend the day together and hook up. They then continued by him requesting her to send him nudes and he also sent her nudes. If things between them ever goes bad there is a higher chance that those nude pictures will be exposed as a form of shaming.
When it comes to sexuality online, people just want to feel good and celebrate that fact about themselves and for me, it's about being happy about yourself and for others being happy in their lives.My name is Kemi and I am 30 years old. I was born in Togo but I grew up in Nigeria. I am Togolese, really, and not Nigerian, even though I grew up there and I speak Yoruba and other Togolese languages. I’ve been in Canada for about 8 years. I came with my younger brother to Canada as an international student to study Business at the University of Winnipeg and we live in the west end of the city.